A Forgotten Art

My mother, sister and I enjoy watching westerns such as Gunsmoke, Bonanza, The Big Valley, and The Rifleman. In a godless, feminist-soaked, techno-crazed America, it’s nice to go back to an 1800s America when God, male leadership, and simplistic living ruled the nation.

Western Favs

From top left to bottom right: Gunsmoke, Bonanza, The Big Valley, and The Rifleman.

Of course these television shows are only depictions, however, they have sparked a desire in me to learn more about a forgotten art.

The art of etiquette, good manners, and being a lady. 

Etiquette

Recently, when I began my research on these subjects, I didn’t know where to start or where to look. So, I did what everyone else does when they need a random question answered.

I googled it! 😀

When I searched “how to be a lady”, I learned the word etiquette, which is:

“…a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group.” – Wikipedia (The Free Encyclopedia)

I decided to research the history of etiquette and I learned this:

“Many of today’s etiquette rules came from the 1600’s French Royal Court and were adopted by other societies in Europe and around the world. In the nineteenth century Victorian era in the United States, etiquette was a way for social classes to separate themselves and, before the American Civil War, excluded non-whites, immigrants and children.” – Essential Etiquette (History of Etiquette)

After reading different articles, I came to the conclusion that these statements are true:

Etiquette may be wielded as a social weapon. The outward adoption of the superficial mannerisms of an in-group, in the interests of social advancement rather than a concern for others, is considered by many a form of snobbery, lacking in virtue. – Wikipedia (The Free Encyclopedia) 

I then determined, that I wanted to learn and practice a form of godly etiquette. One that is not used for social advancement, but for the sake of being considerate of others and “loving my neighbor as myself”. (Matt. 22:39)

In the midst of my research I found my way to a website called; The Elegant Woman authored by Ms. Eunice. As I read one of her posts I knew I had hit the jackpot. I have not fully explored all she has to offer, but just the little bit that I read so far has helped me in my research process on how to be a lady.

What I’ve learned so far:

Being a woman does not automatically make one a lady. 

“The quicker we understand this, the less hard we would be on ourselves when we make mistakes or etiquette boo-boos.”

“The key to understanding of learning to how to become a lady is this: Learn through reading, understanding, imitation, acting and get over your blunders as soon as possible.”

And:

Her answer to: How did teachings about “how to be a lady” develop? 

“It seems that it all began with a little set of rules. It is in human nature to prefer beauty over vulgarity. With some basic observation and development of culture, a series of ‘behaviour’ had been encouraged and others been eliminated – pretty much in favour of what is beautiful. I suppose that is how cutlery had been developed, instead of eating with our hands.”

Also, but lastly:

Being a lady is simply having extended manners such as always looking for a way to be kind and generous, as well as being a conqueror in life (meaning overcoming struggles and rising above difficulties).

A lady has usually given thought and also more or less developed an organized way to go about life.

True, a lady should employ herself in personal grooming, dress well and learn etiquette.

However if you are without a kind heart and thus without manners, people will see through the actions as being artificial.

After all this, and reading “Bite sized lessons ‘How To Be a Lady’ Page One I realized, that a “lady” looked a lot like the Proverbs 31 Woman.

Thus, I have resolved to learn and practice godly etiquette, manners and how to be a Proverbs 31 “Lady” 😉 I hope this post enlightened you about this forgotten art. I believe that good manners, ladies and gentlemen, need to return to the American culture. And I believe it will if the hearts and minds of men and women are turned back to the Lord the Creator of all good things.

Thank you for reading. I greatly appreciate your interest.

❤ Mekenna

What’s Cooking? | Last Week of May

My sister and I were assigned to cook dinner the last week of May and I have two of the meals from that week to share with you.  

First up is Tuesday’s dinner:

Shepherd’s Pie (technically Cottage Pie because I did not make this with lamb meat 🙂 )

Shepherd's/Cottage Pie

So these pictures show you the process of putting it all together in a pan to bake. (I didn’t think to take pics until this point.) I wanted to make enough for two dinners so I used 2lbs of ground beef. I eyeballed the mixed veggies, and used 6 potatoes to make the mashed taters. After the ground beef, mixed vegetables, and mashed potatoes were prepared, I combined the meat and veggies together. Then I topped them with mashed potatoes and shredded cheddar cheese. I’ve made this before and I wanted to add cheese to the meat and vegetable mixture because just cheese on the top isn’t enough for my family. But I forgot to do it this time so I’ll try to remember next time. 😉 I put them in the oven at 350° to bake for 20-25 minutes. It came out great!

 Next up is Wednesday’s Dinner: Chicken Fajita Pasta (This was a pinterest recipe!)

Chicken Fajita Pasta

I enjoyed making this and the delicious aroma it sent around the house. I will definitely make this again! You can view the recipe here

I am glad I accomplished this post. I’ve been slacking once again, but with God’s help I can improve. Have a blessed evening and thank you for reading! 🙂

~Mekenna

God’s Got This!:What If ?

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This segment of “God’s Got This!” will be geared towards all those “What If” questions.

1. What IfYou never get married?

Royalty-Free (RF) Wedding Clipart Illustration by BNP Design Studio - Stock Sample #435094

If I never marry, then I will continue to diligently serve the Lord in my father’s house. I find more ways to be active in my church. (… And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.
~1 Corinthians 7:34-35 ESV)

 

2. What If…You marry but your husband dies? (How will you support yourself and possible children?)

The Young Widow, 1877 Giclee Print by Edward Killingworth Johnson

My fathers says, “A man of God will make sure his wife and children would be taken care of if he were to unexpectedly pass away. However, ultimately if my future husband were to die that is when my faith in God and his providence should increase, not decrease. As Christians we are supposed to trust God with our futures, come what may.

 

3. What If… You can’t have children?

 

If I cannot physically bear children, then my future husband and I will consider adoption. (He gives the barren woman a home,making her the joyous mother of children.Praise the LORD! ~Psalm 113:9 ESV)

4.What if…Your husband can’t provide?

My future husband and I will trust God and do what needs to be done in accordance with God’s will and His standards.  (You who fear the LORD, trust in the LORD! He is their help and their shield. ~Psalm 115:11 ESV)

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Conclusion: What happens in our lives are no surprise to an omnipotent God. He knows our pasts, presents, and our futures. The eleventh shorter catechism question reads:

Question: What is God’s Providence?

Answer: God’s providence is His completely holy, wise, powerful and preserving every creature and every action.

How could you or I not trust in the very God who created the universe in just six days, to be there for us in our times of need?

“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

(Matthew 6:25-34 ESV)

God’s Got This! Thus, I’ve decided not to worry about my tomorrow, because I know I’m in good hands. 😉

Because He lives, I can face tomorrow,  Because He lives, all fear is gone;  Because I know He holds the future,  And life is worth the living,  Just because He lives!

 

~Mekenna